Decision Step
Commitment Step
Action Step

It just takes 3 simple steps:

acceptance

To be congruent is to except your true personality for what it is and let others see your true self.  A truly congruent person does not change to accommodate the pressures of others around them or be influenced into acting in a different way to which they are comfortable.  To be congruent is to be comfortable in your own skin, once this comfort is achieved then it is possible to make true friends and build relationships as people know who you really are and there are no hidden layers of personality.

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